At the start of the summer, I invited you all to attempt your own 3 month missions. So far, I’ve been seeing people sending me videos of their progress and blog posts of their successes. I look forward to showcasing several of them on the site over the next months! Keep sending your stories, or share your missions or success stories with the Fi3M community, (and let me know which ones you’d love me to feature on the blog) if you’d like to be included to help inspire other language learners!
But today, I want to share much more subtle, but still very important success: taking control of the very first step in changing your mentality and approach. Nikki Lavoie, from Perpetualpassenger wrote this after seeing my TEDx talk, and I think she has a real chance of getting somewhere after seeing her critically look at herself like this! Over to you Nikki;
Addiction is a very serious thing.
The Collins English Dictionary defines addiction as follows: the condition of being abnormally dependent on some habit.
I am publishing, for the first time ever, that I am an addict. I am taking the first step, with all of you as my witnesses, to end my addiction. I’m asking for the help of my friends, my family, and any other readers out there to join me in my well-overdue, virtual intervention.
I am addicted to excuses.
For the past 15 months, I have been living in France, and I don’t speak (much) French. And until now, I have been dependent on the habit of excuses, which have enabled me to continue my life in this way. Here are the tools I have been using to sell myself short:
- I work in English
- I don’t know enough grammar yet
- I don’t know enough vocabulary
- I don’t want to sound stupid
- I’m afraid of making mistakes
- I don’t want people to laugh at me when I speak
- I can’t express myself fully
And on, and on.
This is the moment where I am airing my dirty laundry, admitting my fault, and holding myself accountable to all of you.
Benny’s TEDx talk has highlighted for me that my excuses, not my lack of knowledge, are the reasons I do not speak French yet, and has given me the sense to understand my next steps. Thanks in advance to everyone for helping to end my addiction to excuses. It’s time to come clean and speak French!
Make sure to wish Nikki luck (or my preference of “Merde !” in French, which is sort of like their version of “break a leg” in wishing bad luck so good luck will happen), and let us know your thoughts. If you are starting off too, do you think you could admit that you might be addicted to excuses?
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If you enjoyed this post, you will love my TEDx talk! You can get much better details of how I recommend learning a language if you watch it here.
This article was written by Benny Lewis
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