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LGBT and nervous?
July 16, 2011
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July 15, 2011

This is less to do with general shyness (though that's something I deal with, as well), and more with a specific situation of hesitation.

I'm studying Esperanto on lernu!, and I'd like to practice by starting a thread in the forums (in Esperanto) reaching out to fellow LGBT Esperantists.  However, I feel uneasy.  I'm concerned that it will attract unnecessary negative attention, but I honestly don't know why I'm afraid that that would be an issue.  I'm doing my best to just put on my Big Girl pants and start the darn thread.

Anyone else feel nervous about reaching out due to their sexuality?

Native: English - Communicative: Français - Learning: Esperanto
July 16, 2011

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Maybe I'm wrong, but isn't the Esperanto community more open ? If I were you, I'd just start this thread, and see what will happen. And even if it goes wrong, then it's not the end of the world, right ?

Speaks : Studying : Dead : Ancient Greek
July 16, 2011
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Sorry for butting in here when I am not part of the LGBT community, but I can tell you from attending several meetings of Esperantists that that community is very open minded and has the most diverse group of people I've ever had the pleasure of sharing company with, and had the highest frequency of LGBT members compared to any other group I have been a part of because of this open mindedness.

People's openness about their sexuality at these meetings was something I found very inspirational and hope the world follows their mindset in as many places as possible. The whole idea of the Esperanto community rests on such open mindedness and unlikeliness of judging.

Start the thread on Lernu and I can tell you it's probably among the last forum on the entire Internet that will give you grief ;) Of course, I expect (and hope for) similar welcomeness here on Fi3M forums. If anyone here is unfairly mean to you let me know and I'll definitely deal with it.

Speaks: English Spanish Italian Portuguese German Irish French Esperanto Mandarin (Taiwan) Nederlands American Sign Language
July 16, 2011
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July 15, 2011

Thanks, guys.

I think the main reason that I'm nervous is because I've had relatively little experience with direct negativity in response to my orientation (oh, I've been stared at when I was holding hands with my girlfriend, but that's nothing to what a lot of people get).  I'm not prepared for it, I don't know how to handle it, so I never know when it's a real risk or no.

Time to look up the vocabulary!

Native: English - Communicative: Français - Learning: Esperanto
January 28, 2015

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January 24, 2015

I had the same concerns! Except I'm learning Russian and I've heard mixed things about Russians and the LGBT community. I'm partly learning Russian because my boyfriend is Russian and wanted to understand and communicate with his non-English speaking family someday. I feel like I shouldn't hide my sexuality if it comes up, but at the same time I don't want to lose teachers or speaking partners just because of that. 

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