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The Sexual Benefits of Learning a Language
January 27, 2012
13:57
WillPeach
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Hey guys, I just wanted to talk about a new project I've got going and see if anyone would be interested in contributing in some shape or form.

 

So I started this site TravelSexLife mainly out of frustration of the lack of any real discussion about the issue of "sex" in the travel blogging world/language learning world. The site takes a completely subjective stance towards the issue and merely seeks to present it so that you can all make your minds up as to what to engage in or not while travelling, studying or learning languages abroad.

 

Anyway the reason I'm posting here is because I'd love to do a post on something related to sex and language learning. Perhaps something in the way of the "sexiest sounding language", or "phrases you shouldn't say to offend offending someone sexually". 

 

If anyone is interested in writing something – and of course I'd promote your site and projects in return – I invite you to come check out the site. I'd appreciate any feedback regardless – understand this is a very divisive topic so I'm ready for the trolls…

January 27, 2012
14:57
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Interesting idea for a blog! One guy to get in touch with would be http://www.rooshv.com/ -it's travel and sex related, although the focus is way more on "how to get laid" tips for guys, which can be very anti-feminist and real Pick-Up-Artist-esque, which might not jive well with a lot. It seems you are going for discussing sex in general, which is a good angle!

You won't get me guest posting though – my Catholic mother is embarrassed enough as it is by all I share on fi3m without me going into graphic details about such personal matters :P I'll always openly talk about sex… just not on the Internet :)

Sexiest language for me is Brazilian Portuguese, for reasons I won't go into.

Keep it up!

[By the way, please post in the appropriate forum section. This comes across as a little spammy when you post it in General, when it's clearly travel related and has nothing to do with language learning, apart from the vague suggestion in the title. I've moved it, but please don't post links in irrelevant sections again]

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January 27, 2012
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Yeah sorry about that Benny! Realized I'd posted in the wrong one as soon as I tried to find it again.

 

Glad you like the blog – it's great to see the balance sliding more toward the positive! No problems with the GP issue – I know that posting about sex can be mortifying for some. 

 

Brazilian though! That's interesting. Cheers for the link too I'll be sure to check it out.

 

Helpful as ever mate.

January 28, 2012
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Benny, have you read the site you linked to? The first article starts off on a real positive note: "Danish girls have thick, stout builds, with Pepsi can bodies and faces that have come into contact with every branch of the ugly tree," and goes on like that about how ugly Danish women are for pages. Apparently it's an exerpt from his book about "all the information you need to dislike Denmark" – not exactly the attitude toward other countries you promote on your blog! Further down the page there's another article called "What Is The Real Purpose Of Women?" His conclusion: 

[I]t’s simply to reproduce.

Quick—name a female scientist besides Marie Curie. Name a female artist during the Renaissance. Name a famous female architect or Nobel Prize winner. Women have been quiet in the history of the world not because of male privilege, but because they’re not designed to achieve. The advantage that nature has given them concerns solely their appearance.

I've read and enjoyed The Game and other materials directed at male PUAs, and I'm not the easily offended type, but to say that this site "can be very anti-feminist" was a bit of an understatement! This guy has problems.

 

Sorry for the off-topic post.

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January 28, 2012
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Yes, his blog can be very offensive. From cultural (in the traditional sense) and travel-encouraging perspective it's the last blog you should read. However, he is very honest about his thoughts and they are relevant to the theme of the blog.

I would highly suggest girls don't read his site, as they'll get offended by every second sentence. He takes anti-feminism and chauvinism to a whole new level, that wouldn't be enjoyable at all for girls to read, unlike stuff like the Game, which is a narrative. I've met many PUAs in my travels, and the Game doesn't tell you jack about what they are really like. I found a lot of their techniques to be incredibly cheesy, and prefer a more genuine approach, even if likeliness of success is lower.

But once you accept that he is a sex tourist and it's not written for a general audience, his blog can be an entertaining read for a guy who is used to such conversations. When I hang out with other guys, especially in Latino cultures, conversations can be very sexist. Even if I wouldn't ever talk that way myself, I am not phased by others doing it.

I've found some of his cultural observations to be quite spot-on, although saying them in public is extremely taboo, and his objectifying of women makes it a rough read sometimes. Your quote and the title of that post is a good example!!

I linked to it since it is relevant to sex-related travel, but yes – a lot of stuff on the blog is the opposite of many of the messages I like sharing on mine. You should know from the onset that if any post starts with "What's the purpose of women", then you probably shouldn't read it because you WILL be offended :) Maybe he does have problems (I am very glad that getting laid is a much lower priority in my life), but you are asking for trouble by reading on when you see such titles :P

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January 28, 2012
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Benny said:

You should know from the onset that if any post starts with "What's the purpose of women", then you probably shouldn't read it because you WILL be offended :) 

I was halfway expecting the title to be joking or tongue-in-cheek! cry I wouldn't say I was greatly offended though, because 1) I like to keep an open mind about other perspectives and learn about different ways of thinking even when I don't agree with them personally, and 2) His argument struck me as so uneducated that I couldn't feel threatened by it. I was rather in shock and disbelief, and now I just feel a little sad for the state of humanity (like the way you feel after you wasted your time reading through an unbelievably stupid flame war in the comments of a YouTube video).

@will, I think your blog is a really cool idea, and I think a lot of people would like to read "spot-on cultural observations that are taboo to say in public", except minus the insults to large groups of people, and coming from a position of cultural understanding and empathy whenever possible. So far, it looks like you're doing a great job of that! I'll be following you and wishing you the best.

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