Starting to learn a language with the right attitude

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Starting a new “confusing” language doesn't have to be so hard

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, and learning a language is quite a trip! If you put your first foot wrong, it may seriously slow you down.

I honestly believe that the most important part of learning a language isn't the grammar or having a wide grasp of vocabulary; it's your attitude towards it and confidence with it. Whether the grammar, vocabulary and cultural aspects are hard or easy doesn't matter so much as how hard or easy you think they are. When starting a new language it's easy to get discouraged by all the hard aspects of it. But I say, ignore them, especially when you are just starting out. They shouldn't have to drag you down! We should focus on the positive 🙂

It's as if you were being introduced to a new friend, Joe. If, the moment you were introduced, Joe told you that that he farts when he's nervous, he hates children and he is very opinionated, it may be very honest of him but you are going to have a hard time liking him, and you may always dislike him because of these faults. But if the same Joe instead first told you that he has hiked jungles in Africa, works for NASA and shows how kind he is and how great his sense of humour is, then you will likely find him very interesting and a long lasting friendship may begin! You'll accept his faults as all friends do.

When we introduce ourselves to people, we like to present our good side and save the “crazy” until when they get to know us a bit better. Why shouldn't it be the same with languages? I'd prefer to think of a language as my good friend, rather than that annoying co-worker I'm forced to spend most of my day with, wouldn't you?

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But… learning a language is SO HARD

It's easy to look at the hard parts of a language and think that it's some cruel punishment, or even a brick wall to prevent us from ever being able to learn it. A few years ago when I decided to start learning Czech, some friends, advice forums and other websites were very quick to “warn” me of the following reasons why it's one of the “hardest” languages to learn: it has SEVEN grammatical cases (nominative, genitive, dative etc.), some words have no written vowels, and consonant clusters can be hard for English speakers to pronounce; much of the vocabulary is unlike that of Western European languages; ano means “yes”; letters carry unfamiliar diacritics; word order can be confusing; and there are three grammatical genders. Lions and Tigers and Bears, oh my!

This warning is not helpful. It's not fair that everyone is bad-mouthing Joe behind his back without giving him a chance to stand up for himself. If you are going to learn the language anyway, then how is all of this discouragement going to help?

I say that we can ignore a lot of these things in the first stages of learning a language. If an English learner ignored subject/object differences and said “That letter is for I”, I could definitely forgive them if they had only been learning English for a few weeks! It's a lot better to get the point across first, and iron out the edges when you're more comfortable talking. A perfectionist may say it correctly after six months of study, but perhaps they never tried to just say it wrong and missed chances to actually communicate. After all, that's what a language is all about, not perfect grammar and tables of rules and lists of vocabulary. It's a means of talking to people!

Why it's easy

So, what I do is look for reasons why a particular language is EASY. We're going to have to work together anyway, so we may as well be friends! When starting out in Czech, the first thing I did was quickly browse my grammar book and find reasons why Czech is easy. I had only gotten through about a third of that book (not studying; just casually browsing and flicking through pages) and this is what I found:

• No definite or indefinite articles, so there is no direct equivalent of “a” or “the”. This removes one early choice that learners of French or Spanish have to make, although Czech nouns still have grammatical gender and agreement.
• Czech spelling is relatively consistent, so the written form is usually a useful guide to pronunciation. It's more predictable than English spelling, where “enough”, “though”, “through”, “plough”, “dough” and “cough” do not all rhyme.
• Conjugation that is oddly similar to Spanish or Italian at times: děláme, děláte; facciamo, fate (“we do, you [plural] do” in Czech and Italian respectively).
• Although there are fewer similar words between English and Czech than between English and many Romance or Germanic languages, there are still plenty of words that you don't need a dictionary to understand. A few I've seen so far include problém, systém, optimista, kapitalista, profesor, kilometr, mapa, doktor, telefon, and of course the Czech-coined word “robot”. I imagine there are plenty more to discover, which gives me a useful head start on vocabulary.

And while browsing I unintentionally picked up some grammar and actually learned something other than what I wrote above. This wasn't bad for my first day of Czech investigation! I realise that saying how “easy” a language is may all sound quite naïve, overly optimistic and even arrogant at first, considering you're just a beginner in your target language. But continue to make excuses to make this not seem like work, and to make it feel more fun. Attitude is everything!

I plan to keep on looking and learning all the easy bits first and then working my way up. The advantage of this method is that by the time I get to the harder bits I'll already recognise sentence structures, lots of basic words etc. and it will make sense based on what I've seen up to now (“Ah, so that‘s why they write it that way!”). Discovering these usually disliked rules, after you've already started learning the language and seen them applied a lot of times, is a whole different game and can actually be interesting and fun believe it or not!

So try this if you are starting a language; find the easy bits first and learn them. Jump from chapter 1 to chapter 20 in the grammar book if you are bored (they are rarely ordered by difficulty, but rather grammar category), learn lots of easy words before getting to the harder ones. Then you'll actually have a structure to build the upcoming studies on. The traditional approach of systematically covering all grammatical concepts, or starting straight into learning basic phrases that most books and courses cover seem to miss out on this idea.