Gomen Nasai! How to Say “I’m Sorry” in Japanese

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Did you know there are over a dozen different ways to say “sorry” in Japanese?

Like in English, there’s “I’m sorry” or “my apologies” in Japanese, too. But there are also different levels of formality and intensity of the apology, depending on the situation.

So how do you apologize in Japanese? How will you know what is the difference between sumimasen and gomen nasai, and when to use which?

Well, that’s what we’re going to break down!

Mastering how to say “I’m sorry” in Japanese is super important for good communication. Not only is it a crucial part of the culture and context, it’s just polite to learn in any language.

So, here’s what we’re going to be learning today:

• How to say “I’m sorry” in formal Japanese
• How to say “I’m sorry” casually in Japanese
• The difference between common Japanese apology phrases like sumimasen and gomen nasai
• The art of the Japanese apology: customs and how to apologize
• Extra ways to ask for forgiveness in Japanese

Let’s dive right in!

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How Do You Say “I’m Sorry” in Japanese? – ごめんなさい (Gomen Nasai)

This is the standard way to say “sorry” in Japanese, and you can use it in most situations.

ごめんなさい (gomen nasai) is the polite way to say “I’m sorry,” but you can make it more casual, too. Switching it to ごめん (gomen) or ごめんね (gomen ne) makes it more casual; these are not fixed masculine and feminine forms, and ね softens the tone.

On the flip side, you can make it more sincere by adding 本当に (hontou ni), to say 本当にごめんなさい (hontou ni gomen nasai) which means “I’m truly sorry.”

Be careful, though, because this phrase is not a strong enough apology if you have to say you’re sorry to someone “above” you in Japanese society (like your boss!). In that case, you would use…

“I’m Terribly Sorry” – 申し訳ございません (Moushiwake Gozaimasen)

If you did something wrong at work, this would be the phrase to use. It’s in humble speech and shows your sincerity more than ごめん(ね).

申し訳ございません (moushiwake gozaimasen) is also said if you do something wrong in any situation where you must apologize to someone of authority. That could mean law enforcement, too.

You’ll also hear 申し訳ありません (mōshiwake arimasen), which has essentially the same meaning but is less formal than 申し訳ございません.

“Excuse Me” in Japanese – すみません (Sumimasen)

すみません (sumimasen) is a super common way to apologize in most situations. It’s used in the same way as “excuse me” is in English. If you need to pass someone in a tight space, you’d say すみません. Bumped into someone by accident? “ああ、すみません！” (Aa, sumimasen, “Ah, I’m sorry!”)

What’s the Difference Between Sumimasen and Gomen Nasai?

I’m glad you asked! ごめんなさい (gomen nasai) is only used to apologize for something you did wrong. すみません (sumimasen) is used to apologize, too, but also used to get someone’s attention. It’s not necessarily casual but it’s the more laid-back apology in Japanese.

So, sumimasen vs. gomen nasai is a bit nuanced, and they’re often used interchangeably. But the main thing is, sumimasen isn’t just for apologizing.

“Please Excuse Me” – 失礼します (Shitsurei Shimasu)

失礼します (shitsurei shimasu) means “Excuse me” and is commonly used when interrupting someone, asking something, or taking one’s leave. It is not a way to say “Thanks for your help.”

You can also use this phrase when leaving work. If you leave before anyone else at work, you’ll say お先に失礼します (osaki ni shitsurei shimasu / “Excuse me for leaving before you”) to apologize for leaving before they do. They’ll reply with お疲れ様でした (otsukaresama deshita), which means both “You must be tired” and “Thanks for all your hard work.”

For a past discourtesy or mistake, use the past form 失礼しました (shitsurei shimashita), “I’m sorry for being rude.”

“Please Forgive Me” in Japanese – 許してください (Yurushite Kudasai)

This is another deep, sincere apology. You don’t use this one lightly. Saying 許してください (yurushite kudasai) is a much more intense apology for when you’ve made someone mad. It doesn’t matter who it is or their social level compared to yours. This is the phrase you use when you want to ease tensions by asking for forgiveness.

The phrase is the て-form of 許す (yurusu, “to forgive”) followed by ください, literally “please forgive [me].”

“My Apologies” in Japanese – 謝罪いたします (Shazai Itashimasu)

謝罪いたします (shazai itashimasu) is a formal, explicit way to say “I apologize.” It uses the humble form いたします (itashimasu), but the phrase does not inherently mean “my deepest apologies.”

This isn’t often heard, though. It’s mostly used in writing by politicians, celebrities, and the like, who have to issue a public written apology for a scandal that’s released to the press.

“Sorry to Bother You” – お邪魔します (Ojama Shimasu)

お邪魔します (ojama shimasu) is a standard greeting when entering someone else’s home or space, humbly acknowledging the intrusion.

For instance, you may say お邪魔します when entering a colleague’s office or an acquaintance’s home. When leaving after a visit, say お邪魔しました (ojama shimashita), “Thank you for having me.”

“I’m Sorry for the Inconvenience” – ご迷惑をおかけして、申し訳ありません。(Gomeiwaku Wo Okake Shite, Moushiwake Arimasen)

This is a polite way to apologize for causing someone trouble or inconvenience. It is an apology, not a general substitute for thanking someone who helped you.

There are two variations of this phrase:

• ご迷惑をおかけして、申し訳ありません。 (gomeiwaku o okake shite, moushiwake arimasen)
• ご迷惑をおかけして、すみません。(gomeiwaku o okake shite, sumimasen)

Both sentences apologize for causing inconvenience. 申し訳ありません (mōshiwake arimasen) is more formal than すみません (sumimasen), but 申し訳 is not a humble form of すみません, and neither sentence is specifically for thanking someone who helped you.

“My Bad” – 悪い悪い (Warui Warui)

悪い悪い (warui warui) is used exactly the same as “My bad” in English. It’s the most casual way to apologize, and should only be used with friends.

“Have Mercy” – 勘弁してください (Kanben Shite Kudasai)

No, I'm not referencing Uncle Jesse’s catchphrase from Full House.

勘弁してください (kanben shite kudasai) asks someone to excuse, spare, or let you off. It can follow an apology as a plea, but it is not a second apology formula required after a major mistake.

勘弁してください (kanben shite kudasai) means “Please excuse/spare me” or “Please give me a break.” Depending on context, it can ask forgiveness, reject an onerous request, or express exasperation; it is not inherently an intense apology for a major mistake.

The Art of the Japanese Apology: How Do You Apologize in Japanese?

Apologies are a bit different in Japanese because they’re intrinsically tied to the values of Japanese culture.

In Japan, it’s crucial to maintain “face” by keeping up polite, proper appearances. The concept of “face” plays a huge role in Japanese society. You always want to be seen as a team player, conscientious of your actions, and responsible for your mistakes.

The other important aspect of Japanese culture is 和 (wa), which means “harmony.” The Japanese value peace and harmony in the society above almost anything else. So, the art of apologizing in Japanese is a big factor.

You may have already noticed from the examples I’ve shared that in Japanese culture it’s common to apologize to someone when they do a favor for you, rather than say thank you. That’s because you’re grateful, but also didn’t want to cause them an unnecessary burden. You don’t want to disturb the harmony by causing others trouble, so it’s better to apologize.

When you apologize, it’s good manners to bow at the same time. When you bow, you can place your hands along both sides of your legs and bow (a bit more masculine). Or place your hands right below your navel, one on top of the other, and bow (a bit more feminine). Again, this is to show that you are regretful and humble. The deeper the bow (and the more from your body you bow rather than your head), the deeper the apology.

In the case of 勘弁してください (kanben shite kudasai), you may even drop to your knees and bow, dropping your forehead to the floor. This is the deepest level of apology possible in Japanese culture, and it’s called 土下座 (dogeza). You’ll see this in anime and dramas more often than in real life, though.

For a serious mistake, choose an appropriately formal apology and respond sincerely to the context; Japanese does not require stacking a fixed number of apology phrases.

Save Face and Apologize the Right Way

Now you know the basics of apologizing in Japanese! From the most common, casual ways, to the extreme and intense apologies — you’ve got it all covered now.

While some of these will be more useful to you in everyday life, it’s a good idea to learn all of them… In case you ever need it!

This is by no means an exhaustive list (there are so many ways to apologize!), nor all the ways to conjugate the phrases above. You could change them to more formal or informal, present or past tense, etc. But most of that will come naturally to you as you continue to learn Japanese, and this is a great place to start.

Because culture does play such a huge part in the language and saying “I’m sorry” in Japanese… Why not learn more Japanese culture tidbits?

You could also learn slang from around Japan, how to be polite with Japanese honorifics, or start learning how to read and write Hiragana.