How Language Exchanges Helped Me Learn Spanish, Italian and Portuguese

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I sat in the sunshine in a cafe in my new adopted city of Seville, chatting to a Spanish friend about life in Andalusia. We talked about southern Spanish traditions, the prospects for young people and of course, the fiestas of the month that we would attend. And I did this all in Spanish.

A few months earlier, I hesitated over even simple Spanish phrases. I had studied the language for years but had little experience using it in conversation.

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After Years of Spanish Study, I Still Mixed Up “Gracias” and “Hola”

Before moving to Spain I had been learning Spanish on and off for around six years.

I decided that this would be the year I finally became fluent.

From my studies, I’d worked up to a B1 level in Spanish. But my Spanish skills had receded, after having lived in Rome for one year and learning Italian.

My Spanish conversational level was still a strong A2, functional but basic. That said, at the start of my trip, I walked into a bakery and said “gracias” instead of “hola”!

Although I had a solid base in Spanish, I still found it difficult to hold conversations with experienced speakers. I was also adjusting to the varieties of Spanish I heard in Andalusia.

As I sat chatting with my friend in the cafe, I realised that my Spanish was becoming easier to use.

Even my friend had noticed. “Wow! You speak a lot better than last time,” he said. I had been in Seville for only a few weeks, yet the extra speaking practice was already noticeable.

My Language-Exchange Routine

I used the same formula to learn Italian, Spanish and Portuguese.

With each language I learnt, I reused techniques that had worked before. Spanish, Italian and Portuguese are closely related Romance languages, so some vocabulary and grammar also felt familiar.

After building strong Spanish and Italian skills, I used a language-learning audio course and several weeks in Porto to begin holding conversations in Portuguese.

I used the same routine for each language: a language exchange in a cafe, arranged through Facebook. I paid only for my drink and spent half the meeting in the language I was learning and half in English, so each person had time to practise.

Any free time I had was devoted to improving my Spanish. Some of my friends balked at this, saying that it must be exhausting doing so many language exchanges per day, but what's exhausting about meeting new people, learning, eating tapas and going for drinks?

It was great fun. Over six months in Barcelona, Cádiz, Granada and Seville, I completed more than one hundred language exchanges, made friends and gained far more Spanish speaking practice.

How I Funded My Time Overseas

Language exchanges and a willingness to make mistakes were central to my Spanish practice.

For this particular project, I chose to live where I would hear and use the language every day. Travel is not a requirement for language learning.

For me, immersion was an enjoyable way to learn in context, travel and meet people. You can create frequent speaking opportunities without moving abroad.

I used Workaway to find hostel exchanges. This describes my historical arrangement, not current immigration or employment advice.

My hostel placements gave me accommodation, a social setting and a flexible schedule; some also included food or pocket money. Terms vary. Before accepting any exchange, check the host, written conditions and current official visa, work and labour rules for your nationality and destination.

Au pairing was another option I considered, but hours, duties, pay and language use vary by placement. Confirm those details and the legal requirements before committing.

I worked about 20 hours per week in hostels and relied on savings because the placements were not all paid. On this trip, some food was included and I occasionally paid €0.33 for a small beer. I also earned money teaching English. These historical costs and arrangements should not be used as a current budget.

This was my foundation from which I learned a language and organised language exchanges for myself.

Here’s How I Used Facebook to Arrange Language Exchanges

As soon as I settled into my hostel, I used Facebook to find native Spanish/Italian/Portuguese speakers. Using Facebook's search bar, I would type:

[Name of city] + [Language exchange]

And:

[Name of city in target language] + [translation of the word for “exchange” in target language]

So, for example, when I lived in Granada I would search:

• Granada Language Exchange
• Granada Learn English
• Granada Intercambios (translation: Granada Exchanges)
• Granada English
• Granada Inglés (translation: Granada English)
• Granada idiomas (translation: Granada Languages)

I used several combinations in English and the language I was learning to find relevant local groups.

I included the city name in both languages and tried several relevant search terms. I then joined active groups whose purpose and rules matched my request.

In each suitable group, I posted the same message. Here’s the exact script I used:

Hola! Soy una chica Inglesa y estoy buscando españoles para hacer intercambios de idioma. Si alguien quiere mejorar su Ingles y tomar algo, estaría encantada! Cualquier cosa, hablame por privado. Muchas gracias.

Translation: “Hi! I'm English and looking for Spanish people to do language exchanges with. If anyone wants to improve their English and grab a coffee or beer then send me a private message, thank you.”

I wrote the message in the language I was learning and posted it in the relevant groups I had joined.

Some groups had hundreds or thousands of members, and in one city I received as many as 60 replies. I used private messages to learn more about potential partners before arranging a meeting.

Private messages gave us room to discuss our languages, goals and availability. Before meeting someone from an online group, choose a public place, keep control of your transport and tell a trusted person where you’ll be.

I liked to make plans while the exchange was fresh, but the other person’s pace mattered too. A text chat or video call first can help both people decide whether they feel comfortable meeting. I did not need to meet every person who replied.

More Hints and Tips on Arranging Language Exchanges

Tip 1: Speaking English Gives You a Big Advantage

English was in demand among the people who answered my posts in Spain and Italy, which made it easier for me to find an exchange. Response rates depend on the city, group, language pair and timing. In Portugal, I received fewer replies and met several Brazilians living there.

Tip 2: Consider Travel Time in Your City

Smaller cities suited my routine because meeting people involved less travel. During three weeks in Cádiz, I met many people. In Barcelona, journeys across the city took more time and money. Your result may depend more on where partners live than on the city’s size.

Tip 3: Connect with International Students

University cities may have active Erasmus and international student groups. Those groups gave me chances to practise Italian and Spanish with people who were also interested in meeting others.

Tip 4: Carry a Notebook to All Your Language Exchanges

As you are doing so many language exchanges, it's important to establish best practices, as you don't want to waste those hours. I always carried a notebook with me and got my language exchange partners to jot down useful words and phrases, which I would then upload as flashcards on my phone, using Anki. I then tried to ensure that I used them in conversation in the next few days.

Tip 5: You Don’t Have to Drink Beer!

You do not need to drink alcohol for a language exchange. I chose beer because a small caña cost €0.33 during my trip, but coffee, water or another venue works too. I often planned one hour in English and one in Spanish, giving both partners equal practice time. For me, this provided inexpensive speaking practice alongside other study.

What Level Did I Reach in Spanish?

After three months of frequent speaking practice, I estimated my Spanish at a strong B2 level.

I probably could have reached this goal sooner, but all my friends working in the hostel with me were Italian, so I spoke Italian inside the hostel and Spanish outside of it. Initially it was hard switching between the two languages, but it ended up being fantastic practice because by the end, each language was a separate beast and my Italian went from B2 to C1. Incidentally, the same thing happened in Portugal, where everyone working in my hostel was Spanish and a lot of our guests were Italian, so I got to practice those while also doing Portuguese language exchanges.

The language exchanges I did in Spain, Portugal and Italy became some of my best memories of living abroad. Whether you travel or stay home, a well-planned exchange can provide regular speaking practice and a chance to meet someone who shares your goal.