How to Use Skype to Learn Another Language

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Having real conversations with native speakers is one of the best ways to quickly improve your language skills.

Yet I’m constantly surprised by the number of people who wait years before they take that step, or who never take it at all!

Years ago, I was in a room with 20 language learners and asked them, “How many of you have used Skype to practise your target language?” Not a single person raised their hand.

Skype retired its consumer service on 5 May 2025, but the method still works on any platform with video calling and chat. Use the call tool built into your exchange service, or another platform you both trust, and check its current privacy and recording controls before you begin.

This needs to change. Seriously, if you haven't tried it yet, now's the time to start.

So many language learners know they should start practising with a native sooner rather than later… and then just don't. Hopefully this post will light a fire under your arse!

Here are my specific strategies for using video calls to practise a new language and make the most of every conversation, without leaving home.

Let’s get started.

A note from the Fluent in 3 Months team before we get started: You can chat away with a native speaker for at least 15 minutes with the “Fluent in 3 Months” method. All it takes is 90 days. Tap this link to find out more.

How to Find an Online Language Exchange Partner

Your first task is to find another person who speaks your target language and is willing to have a video call with you.

Preply – My favourite language learning resource. 

I've written loads about my favourite way to do this, which is with the excellent service Preply.

Preply is an online language learning service that connects you with language teachers from around the world. If you've been curious to try it out, take a look at my review of Preply where I break down their entire system for you.

I've also written out a guide for how to choose between Preply's many online teachers to find the best one for you. When you're filtering through the various tutors and teachers, pick a native speaker who lives in the country you're focused on. This will give you a direct pipeline to the authentic and modern way to speak your target language.

But I know that you've heard me talk about Preply before. And while I really do think you should give it a try, there are alternative methods for finding great exchange partners, which I'll share with you now!

Join a language learning community and find an exchange partner there!

Try something for me.

Search community groups and Meetup for your target language and city. Check recent posts or events before joining, since a large member count doesn’t tell you whether a group is still active.

You may be surprised by what you find. Plenty of learners are searching for someone to practise with, and that person could be you.

All you really need to do to find a language exchange partner is to step outside your comfort zone.

That's the hardest part. “Finding” people is easy. Having the courage to talk to them is harder, but so worth it.

What to Expect from an Online Language Exchange Partner

There are basically two types of people you can practise speaking with online: language exchange partners (free) or teachers and tutors (paid).

With language exchange partners you should expect to spend some time helping the other person with your native language. You can suggest that each of you go back and forth, spending 10 – 15 minutes speaking in their native language, and then 10 – 15 minutes in yours. I recommend you set up the rules at the start of the call to keep things fair.

But keep in mind that most language exchange partners are not professional teachers and may not have any experience teaching their language to others. This is a great way to practise speaking, but you shouldn’t expect too much in terms of structured instruction or in depth explanations. And you may get the dreaded question, “What do you want to talk about?” So I recommend you arrive online with at least some idea of what you want to practise, so you'll be prepared when you get that question.

Paid teachers, on the other hand, focus entirely on helping you speak and understand your target language. Prices vary by teacher and platform, so compare the full cost with local lessons and group classes. You still get to do it from the comfort of your own desk or couch!

With paid teachers you should be clear about what you are looking to get out of your lesson, and prepare some materials or topics that you want to review.

A bit of preparation before you talk to your teacher will allow you to focus on those areas that are most important.

Two Steps to Prepare for Your Video Language Exchange

Step 1: Decide What to Talk About

Whichever language I’m learning, I usually prepare for video speaking practice in the same way. If you’ve gone through my free Speak in a Week course, then you know that I recommend starting with phrases and words that are specific and relevant to your own situation. Keep a list of words that are specific to you and your life, so you can refer to it when talking about yourself.

Make sure that you have practised these phrases several times, and know how they should sound. Listening to the words beforehand on forvo.com is really helpful for this.

Another handy group of phrases to have ready are those that you may need to ask related to language learning. For example “Can you please repeat that more slowly?” or “Can you write it down for me?” These will become invaluable during your first conversations in the language.

There are more in-depth strategies for preparing for an online lesson, but knowing a few phrases you want to say in advance will take you really far.

Step 2: Tackle Your Nerves

Feeling nervous? So is the other person!

One of the biggest reasons I hear that people don't take the plunge and practise on a video call is nerves!

I'm always hearing, “Benny, I'm shy!” or “Benny, I'm scared!” Well, I can't change that, but I can tell you that your exchange partner is likely just as nervous as you are.

The person on the screen won't be scrutinizing your language skills the way you imagine they will be. They won't be judging you. They won't be annoyed with your mistakes or slow speech. They'll probably be too busy worrying that you will judge them, that you will be annoyed with them. They'll be focusing on their own mistakes, not yours!

A lot of people get nervous the first time they speak with a native speaker. You'll probably never feel totally “ready” to start speaking with another person. This is completely normal.

In fact, if you feel “ready” to speak with a native speaker, then you’ve probably waited too long! Feeling a bit terrified during your first conversation is to be expected and, while I can’t give you a magic pill to take away the nerves, I can tell you that this is absolutely temporary.

Once your first conversation is over, it will only get easier. In fact, it will start to get easier in the first 2 minutes of your conversation! Just hang in there and soon enough you’ll start to get into the flow of things.

How to Set Up Your Computer for a Video Language Exchange

When I have a video speaking session, I set up my computer before the call. Keep these windows open while you’re chatting:

• Your list of phrases and keywords in a notepad document
• Google Translate to use during the conversation
• An online dictionary to find words in your target language

If you have these open in tabs in your browser, or in easily accessible windows, all of the information you might need during the conversation is at your fingertips and easily accessible. This allows you to focus on practising speaking, rather than scrambling to look things up.

This might seem like “cheating”, since you have the things you want to practise right in front of you. But this is about getting used to speaking in the language. And the fastest way to become comfortable speaking and gain confidence in your ability is to open your mouth.

In time, you’ll be able to speak without those “cheat sheets” on your computer screen. In fact, using this sort of system, you’ll find yourself progressing to new phrases and words much faster than if you were always trying to reproduce them from memory.

5 Tips to Make the Most of Your Video Language Exchange

Here are a few other tips that can help make your video call more effective:

Tip 1: Open Your Mouth!

The best way to make the most of your video language practice is to open your mouth and speak! Enjoy getting to know someone from the other side of the planet.

Video calling brings people closer together, and you no longer need to travel thousands of kilometres to converse with a native speaker!

Tip 2: Use Video, Not Just Voice

If bandwidth, privacy and your surroundings allow it, try video rather than voice alone.

A voice call still gives you speaking practice, so use it when video isn’t practical. When both people are comfortable on camera, video can make a first conversation easier to follow.

Video lets you see facial expressions and gestures that can help you follow meaning when a word is missing.

You’ll also notice how this particular person uses their hands and face while speaking. Treat those observations as clues about one conversation, not a rule for an entire culture.

Tip 3: Try the Bingo! Strategy

Another way to make the most of your call is use the “Bingo” strategy, which a learner I worked with came up with. Essentially, she keeps a list of possible things to say, and plays a bingo game with herself to try and practise all the phrases on the list. If she does this, it’s Bingo! For each phrase she uses it gets ticked off the list. (You can read all about it on her 2 Week Russian language study update here.)

Tip 4: Use Technology to Your Advantage

If your platform supports recording, ask everyone for permission before you start and check the local privacy rules. Don’t share the recording unless everyone has agreed to that as well.

If you record your session, you'll be able to look back and figure out that word you didn't understand, or watch again to remember all the words you wanted to say but didn't know how. This way, you'll be better prepared for next time.

You can also ask your teacher to use a shared document, screen sharing or other technologies in your lessons.

Tip 5: Review Your Notes After the Call

Lastly, don't close your computer the moment your video call ends.

Instead, spend an extra ten minutes looking back at the notes in the chat or shared document. What words did your teacher type out that you didn't know? What new phrases should you add to your study list or Anki deck? Were there any conversation topics that you struggled with during the conversation?

This “debriefing” time is so important to make sure that everything you just learned doesn't get lost, but gets reincorporated into your study strategy.

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